Self Improvement – Page 5 – Affirmation Of Visions

If I really stop and analyze the worry cycle within myself, it’s a combination of frustrating, enthralling, annoying yet empowering. I will start to think of a problem, stress myself beyond measure at all the possible horrible outcomes, remain stagnant for a few days with very little action and then out of no where I will find this drive to do whatever it is that I need to do to solve my problem. The latter part of this cycle is amazing. However, I am working to diminish the middle part where I wallow in self-pity until I kick myself into gear. Its that middle piece that weakens me. It is a part of me I strive daily to improve on. I have closed that window of time these days. Mainly because I look back and can see how many things I have overcome. Problems I never thought would get resolved are way back in my rearview mirror. This year I set out to work on myself. I feel as though there is always room for improvement. However, I knew it was going to take much more than just pep talking myself and reminiscing on how far I have come. I decided my commutes would be filled with knowledge. I am on book 8 in my audiobooks. Authors ranging from Gary John Bishop, Gabrielle Bernstein, Joel Osteen, Rachel Hollis, etc have been my brain food in self-improvement. Its almost as though I carry these personal motivational speakers with me at the cost of a monthly credit I receive from Audible. I feel so much more whole the more books I listen to. I have even listened to some twice! As soon as I feel myself rolling back to old habits of self-pity, I hit play and listen to something that will kick me right back to where I need to be. Part of my not looking in the rearview mirror is training my mind to react differently. I even take different routes to places, switch around my daily routine, anything that will jerk me into a new mindset. As I mentioned in one of my previous blogs, “I want to be better. I need to be better”. Even when I am 70 years old, my goal is to be better than I am today. It is forever a work in progress. I want my experiences, whatever they may be to be worth every second.

“Is a little sad but will get over it eventually, I presume”

I logged in to my old Facebook account and found this written on a status update in 2008. This update was written right after my divorce. At the time I felt like a failure. I was on the verge of getting my car repossessed. I was lonely. My kids had a step parent and a baby brother on the way, and my grandmother had passed away. There were so many charged things happening at once and I never thought I’d get out of that dark tunnel. I was barely making any money, and I thought I would never fill the emptiness I had inside. Crazy how just reading that status took me back and reminded me of who I was 10 years ago. However, it reminded me how I took that setback and made it an even stronger comeback. The best part? I did get over the sad. Time heals all. The important thing is that you put in the best effort to use that sad and turn it in to something positive. You have to take that setback and decide if it is more important to sit there and sulk over it or do something about it.

My best suggestion is doing things to fill your time so you aren’t thinking about everything you don’t have or are negative about. Read a book that enlightens you. Download the mingle app and find out things happening in your area that are in your interest and go to them. Did you know they have mingle book clubs? Bike groups? Cycling groups? People who socialize in basically every topic you can think of. Get out there and be around like minded people. Surround yourself with people that are going to force you to be positive. It is so much easier to be sad. However, don’t allow the sad to stay so long it now lives in you without paying rent.

Let your comeback be stronger than your setback

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